First and foremost, I am not a movie person. But on Friday night, I watched "He's Just Not That Into You", the 2009 big-screen version of the book written by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, and felt compelled to write something about it. Normally, whenever I do end up watching a movie, I am easily able to detach everything going on the screen from my everyday reality. Meaning, I find it really hard to relate to films whatsoever. I think it could have been the hundreds of films, documentaries and movies I watched in college that taught me to be extremely critical about content and context. Because for me, a film is just another bias blend of subjective content--whether it claims to be fact or fiction. However, this movie really got me thinking.
I actually found that this movie was doing much more than providing for my Friday night viewing pleasure, but rather gave me a little bit of a reality slap. As I sat bundled up on my couch and watched the the love octagon of Bradley Cooper, Scarlett Johansson, Jennifer Aniston, Ben Affleck, Jennifer Connelly, Drew Barrymore and Justin Long unfold in front of me, I could not help but relate to each of the characters as they each face the emotional cycle of love versus lust.
I have realized that it is all to easy to lose sight of what you really want when emotions all too easily drive us in another direction, and almost always when we least expect it. Relationships are complicated and impossible without the right person. I feel I have experienced a colorful spectrum different types of relationships, but I think more than ever the relationship I have yet to really be in is the one with myself. While we are always trying to improve our romantic relationship statuses or our our relationships with our friends and family--I would argue that the most important relationship to maintain is the one you have with yourself. How often do you really ask yourself: "how am I doing?" and then actually consider the true answer?
So as of now, I am working things out with myself. We are going to spend some time alone and figure out how we are going to make our life together work. I think a shopping date is in order!